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QUICK FACTS

The truth about sex.

 

WHY EXPLORING INTIMACY IS SO IMPORTANT

Every relationship needs intimacy and if a lasting relationship is what you are after, intimacy is an absolute must. Whether it's recreational intimacy, intellectual intimacy, financial intimacy, spiritual intimacy, physical intimacy, or emotional intimacy, any relationship will slowly fizzle and die without it. Whatever the barrier, issue or obstacle, I can assure you, you’re not alone.

Check out these researched fact & figures.

Sexless Marriage

Having sex less than 10 times per year is a relationship that is defined as sexless. If this is you, we are here to help. Many factors can affect this including but definitely not limited to communication, lack of desire, self confidence, and marital dissatisfaction. It doesn’t have to remain this way, there are small tweaks that can lead to big changes and lasting results. If a sexless marriage describes where you are right now and you are seeking more, contact us.

Duration of sex

According to The Face of Global Sex & Durex’s Sexual Wellness Survey, the average duration of intercourse in North America is 17.1 to 21.0 minutes, including foreplay. Keep in mind this is the average length of a between the sheets session, they typically range anywhere from 30 seconds to well over 45 minutes. There isn’t one normal time that one should aim for, whatever works for you is great but if it isn’t working for you, we have some work to do.

Does size matter?

The Journal of Sexual Medicine found that women who report having frequent orgasms with vaginal stimulation are more likely to say they prefer sex with men with larger penises. The average erect penis size is roughly the length of a dollar bill or 5 - 6 inches long. The average vagina is about 2.44 inches long but vaginal length ranges anywhere from 1.5 inches to well over 4.0 inches. Those that report having frequent orgasms with clitoral stimulation claim that size isn’t a big deal to them.

Why are so many people dissatisfied?

 

Sexual dissatisfaction is at epidemic levels. Over half U.S. adults are dissatisfied with their sex lives and it is estimated many more are indifferent to what happens in their bedrooms. If the majority of couples believe that intimacy and sex is a necessity in their relationships, why do so few work at this aspect of their lives? Why are only a small minority willing to put the work to improve such an important part of their lives?

It’s a tough spot that no one wants to be in but statistically speaking, we all have been or will be there at some point. There are many things that we can do as individuals and as couples to work our way out of this sticky and uncomfortable place.

Like anything worth having, it does take work but a lot of the work, when put in the right perspective can be made enjoyable and fun. Connecting with your partner helps to bring the satisfaction that we all want and desire. It can be done and if you are committed to the process, it can be done effectively.

An analogy that is all too common when discussing relationship success includes the usage of a bank account. If there are no or very few deposits made into the account when there are many or big withdrawals made, problems arise. The more work you do on building your bank account, the more you have to work with and enjoy. So as the saying goes, “the more you give, the more you get” rings true for most healthy relationships in your life, especially your significant other.

You, just being here is a great start! Being willing to learn new techniques and ways to increase your relationship know-how and sexual education is exciting. With your efforts, the effects will be enjoyed for years to come.

Let’s elevate your relationship to the next level and help you walk with your loved one into forever.

Sex after kids

It is estimated that at least 12 percent of mothers aren’t always into sex, according to a nationally representative survey by Meredith Parents Network. They also found that 12 percent of moms admitted to using their cellphones during sex! There can be many reasons for sex to be on the bottom of the “To Do List” when there are little muffins in the mix and there are many things that we can do to help move it up on that list and actually increase the desire for intimacy.

Teen sex

According to to research published in 2012 by the nonprofit Guttmacher Institute, any sex education at all, delays the age at which teenagers begin having sex. When we know better we do better. When we are filled with knowledge, we are empowered to make educated and smart decisions that are what is best for us as individuals, no matter how old you may be. Taking Sex Ed off of the curriculum is backfiring all across the nation. If we want our kids to be informed and make informed decisions, we need to make sure they are informed!

What is sex?

How do people define sex? There is so much variance and difference of opinion no matter who you ask. In a 2010 study by the Kinsey Institute, 45 percent of respondents said manual stimulation of the genitals is sex, 71 percent said oral sex is sex and 80 percent said anal intercourse is sex. Very few people have the exact same definition of what sex means to them. It depends on many things, including our upbringing, our religious beliefs, our education, our experiences, our sexuality, ect and there is not one absolute correct way of defining it.