Let’s Talk About Erogenous Zones

What are they and why are they so important? Let’s get into it.

We all have areas of our body that when they are touched, feel good. An erogenous zone is a place on the body that elicits a pleasurable response when stimulated. These areas are composed of nerve-endings and sensory receptors. These areas include both genital and non-genital areas.

The most common erogenous zones that you may have heard of are:

·      the breasts

·      the lower back

·      the buttocks

·      the shoulders

·      the lips

·      the neck

·      the genitals

Some less common erogenous zones are as follows:

·      the eyelids

·      the eyebrows

·      the temples

·      the inner thighs

·      the armpits

·      the crease of the thigh

·      the pubic mound

·      the ears

·      the stomach

·      the scalp

·      the perineum

·      the anus

·      the butt cheeks

·      the lower back

·      the hands

·      the crook

·      the bottoms of your feet

·      the nipples

·      the breasts

·      in between your toes

·      the inside of your ankle

·      the labia minora

·      the lips

·      the anterior vaginal wall

·      the brain

·      the earlobes

·      the inner knee

·      the frenulum

·      the Achilles

·      the V-spot

·      the wrist

·      the prostate

During foreplay, you can utilize the knowledge that you have collected about your partner’s erogenous zones. Being aware of what they like, dislike, and what they find pleasure in will make a big difference in your sex life. You can stimulate these areas to encourage arousal, promote blood flow, enhance sexual satisfaction and help each other relax.

While learning the special spots that bring pleasure for you and your partner is important, it is just as important to be aware of the different types of stimulation that can be used on the erogenous zones. For example, if your partner loves to have their lower back caressed gently, a firmer touch may not bring about the same response. Experimenting with various erogenous zones and how both of you react to different types of touch, textures, lubricants, toys, nibbles, licks, etc, can be quite fun to explore. And this isn’t a one-and-done exploration either! Over time, preferences can and will change; this activity needs to be done every so often to keep updated on one another.

A lot of women find reaching orgasm difficult with penetrative sex alone. Knowing what areas of the body that she likes to be caressed or touched a certain way can be a game changer in between the sheets. A reported 12% of women are able to orgasm just from stimulation of non-genital erogenous zones. Knowing your partner’s erogenous zones gives you a “cheat sheet,” an upper edge when it comes to providing them pleasure.

Every individual is unique in what makes them feel good and which erogenous zones they prefer to be stimulated. While some people can be pushed to the edge of ecstasy by a gentle graze of the inside of their thigh, others may find it subpar and they may barely notice. Communication is very important in expressing your preferences. This not only increases the level of connection, it builds the level of intimacy and sexual pleasure as well.

If you would like further information on erogenous zones or how to increase the pleasure in your relationship, just reach out! I am happy to support you!

By Shauna Harris

Clinical Sexologist/Relationship Specialist

480-594-0658